Fear (Less)

Do today what must be done.Your tomorrow may never come.
Harry F. Banks

We are always so tired that it is so casual to say “I will do it tomorrow” yeah, I know, but that may not always be the case. What is so scary about jumping? Take the task today. Go walking, jumping, flying! FEAR IS INEVITABLE. Do not let it win, what is the worst thing that can happen…. The answer no is just a no someone will say yes, they see your passion and help you achieve your goals. Most people live in the “if” mindset, me being one of them, what if I fall? What if I fail? What if I mess up? Okay, so you get up keep going, dust off, and try again. The greatest mistake you can make is just sit and waste time watching everything happen around you and not live!

We have all heard the “life is too short” line and it is so true. The next time you second guess yourself, do not!! Do it anyway! Jump in water… it’s just water, your shoes will dry. Sing in the street… people are already looking at you anyway who cares. Take the class… you will learn something new! Be free! Fear (less) and do more because chances are tomorrow may never come!!!

Until then

The world is a mess, we all know that. Between covid, family issues, death, you name it, it is just utter chaos! It always seems like we are at war trying to find peace. Sitting and observing things daily I have come to notice a few things. People & all the things that make up the world are inconsistent. Nothing is permanent, we just create the expectations that it will be because we want comfort and hate change.

It is not until we become disappointed that we realize the one consistent thing you have is YOU. Sure we all share the good and the bad with those we value most, but until you find them all you have is the option to paint your pictures. To be there for yourself. Until then take charge. Breathe and know some other human is fighting too. You have made it past the worst day that you thought you could not. So until peace comes just hang tight!

Confidence

“The way to develop self-confidence is to do the thing you fear and get a record of successful experiences behind you.”
-William Jennings Bryan

Doing new things is intimidating…we are all scared to fail. The way we will be perceived by others, but truthfully it all depends on you! Take the leap you never know what will happen. You are in control of who you what to be. Don’t live in fear that will only deprived you of your greatest potential. Be courageous and confident enough you can do all things. Set small goals, and tackle them slowly. Nothing worth having comes easy.

Do not sell yourself short so fast, you are more than capable. Believe in yourself the way others do! It is easier said than done, but just go for it. The growth you will discover is irreplaceable. They all say “you’re crazy” and then it turns into “no way, I’m so proud” take the time and space to prepare yourself and build the courage to seek new challenges. I am rooting for you always when you feel like no one is. You can only go as far as you let your thoughts take you. Follow your dreams and conquer every single one of them. It may take weeks, months, or even years, but it will happen!

Healing

This is the process no one talks about… through every situation, we have a healing process. Whether it is grief, heartbreak, or disappointment. It is a journey that teaches us how to close our wounds. Although I must say it is never the same, some take more time than others. We are human, we are created to trust and have expectations and believe everything will always be fine. With all good comes the bad and you must be prepared to encounter the challenges in your life.

Healing looks different for each individual. Do not rush yourself, heal on your terms, not on the expectations of others. You do not need to rebuild anything that drains you mentally and physically, people often think we just “get over it” but that is never true. Feel what you need. Take time. Learn and Process. Never allow the same version of yourself to hurt you, they do not deserve it and you owe it to yourself to move forward not to go back!

Although we never know when all pain does end! Everything is temporary, feel the moment and prosper. I’m rooting for you. Stand strong. Be brave. Take courage and do NOT give up, remember the sun shines every day. There is a finish line, I promise!!!

In Caos

The truth is that life is a never ending cycle of obstacles! Some are easier to overcome than others, but it is meant to teach you that through all battles in the middle of not knowing what to do there will come peace and understanding of why you went through that certain thing. We often rush to get to the happy parts of life and we forget to admire the struggle on the way up.

In all caos, take a moment to remember there is no rainbow without rain!! It is not caos but a learning experience because after it happens to you once you know how to overcome it a second or even a hundred times after that. Give yourself grace, and do not be frustrated because it did not go the way you plan, you will do it in your time! Capture the craziness. Be present & proud of yourself you did not come this far for nothing!!

Be Brave

We grow up constantly being guarded against what is dangerous by our parents most of the time and instead of giving us courage they implement fear. Which is their instinct, but it is the reason we turn away from new challenges. We adapt to the bare minimum. When people tell you “no” or “this is not for you” think about the reason why? Is it because that person said so or because you let fear win. As an individual, know that you are capable of everything you wish and never let others tell you differently.

Fear and all emotions come hand in hand with the cycle of life, but do not let that hinder your energy! Go with all enthusiasm and do it anyway, because those that try to tear you away from your dreams and aspirations will be watching you anyway. Be Brave. Have the courage to do what others think you cannot. Never limit your potential, go as far as you want to go. Thousands of people can tell you no, but it only takes one yes to conquer the unimaginable! I am rooting for you. Live and embrace, fly as high as you possibly can the world is yours!

Be Present

“If you hear a voice within you say ‘you cannot paint,’ then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced.” -Vincent Van Gogh

I’ve come to a realization recently, as humans we get so caught up in our daily routines whether it is your job, your children, or your just life in general that we forget to live. To embrace everything. Time does not come back, every single thing you do will only be enjoyable once with the anticipation and adrenaline it is to do that activity. Even if you do it once or a hundred times you will only thrive from it once. The other times your just use to it.

Be present in the moment of today. In any desire that you may have in your life, know that you can accomplish it. Even if it takes you one month, one week, or one year. Never let fear or the opinion of others take over your head. There is always a way, you just have to find the right accommodations. Do what it is that you have always wanted because if you wait, you will be waiting forever. Go forth and conquer!! LIVE AS IF YOU DIED TODAY!!!

I waited 3.5 years to go skydiving because I let others mentally take me out of the idea. Until I just went for it. Actually doing it showed me that I have the power to be. To fly. Never settle. Skydiving is by far the most amazing thing I have ever done. I will never forget this day and I will forever cherish this moment like no other.

Try Again

Let’s be honest, as much as we all want to succeed and everything and be perfect that is not always the case. Failure is part of the journey, it teaches you the one way it will not work. However, do not ever lose hope. Try again because that maybe the one time you do succeed.
Speaking from a college student point of view, I know we try to be “perfect” to score the famous 4.0 GPA, to meet other people’s expectations, to make sure we do not disappoint someone. Nothing in life is perfect. We are all human. Be present and proud of where you are right now. A wise man once told me, “There is a season for everything under the sun and under heaven. The sun will always rise again.” Honestly, that is so true and it got me through one of my hardest moments. Regardless if you failed a class, did not get the job, or failed at a simple task, praise yourself because you tried. If you succeed at at all of it, praise yourself because you had the courage to do it. Most of us want to do things, but never start. Take part.

You will succeed either at first attempt or attempt one hundred. It is not a race, it is at your own pace. Go fourth and conquer! Just try one more time you never know what can happen. 

Labels

We all have been part of stereotypes and labeling. People of categorize others according to their looks or abilities, often counting them out of doing a certain task. You cannot participate, not tall enough, not physically able etc… I am sure we have all heard something similar. Society often feels the need to see a certain characteristic and assume you are not qualified. As a friend of mine once told me, “You are not a label” and that stuck with me. I constantly reminded myself of that because it is very true. You are just as capable as anyone else to conquer whatever it is that you desire. Do not let people get in your head or you will be stuck in the same place. Go be. Show the world what you are made of. Prove others assumptions about you totally wrong because labels are not the definition of you! The world is not a solid color but all the colors in the world. You were meant to be extraordinary not ordinary!

What if

Every hour, every day, every month, every season we have choices to make. Every day you have the opportunity to do what you want with your story of life, but more times than not, we live in fear and deprive ourselves from our greatest potential. Constantly asking “what if something goes wrong?” Truthfully, you will never know if you never do it. If you wait for the perfect moment you will wait forever. You are unique, each one of us hold our perspective on life. People are not always going to match you and that is fine! Not long ago, I heard something that stuck with me “you are not what others think of you, you are what you think of YOU” that spoke volumes. If we always do what others expect we will never learn to fly. Do not live in the version of others. What if does not exist, if it works then you did what you always wanted and conquered. If it does not then you learned how to be better. So go and jump outside the box there is more waiting for you on the other side!!