When you feel like the outsider, like the only person on that lane, stay there!! If it is what YOU want. Choose what makes you jump up and down. Stand your ground. You do not have to agree with everyone out there. Your opinion, your thoughts, your input matter. YOU matter and deserve to be seen. Find those people. You are fundamental here.
I’ve learned to be riskier and I’m so impulsive it’s kinda scary sometimes, but honestly, if you feel the urge to do something do it because tomorrow you may not have the opportunity to do so. STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. Shine, shine, shine, you are free to choose every day. Give yourself the value you give others. You are so much more than you think. You can always do more.
This month is for us to give. To give it all. Love, peace, encouragement, but most importantly gratitude! I always say it is the one time a year, I can be extra cheesy and it is okay hahaha. As I am writing, I realize some people may not receive words of gratitude and it saddens me because it is something so simple that makes the biggest difference you can imagine. Something everyone deserves to feel. It is always the simple things that matter most.
Take this moment and check up on those you truly value. It is okay if they do not reciprocate, that is on them not you. You do what you feel. I have learned so far this season, that those that matter will value your effort and time and those that do not will call it “you’re doing too much” I know I’m always sentimental, I always go the extra mile so what. It makes a difference in the long run. When you wake up in the morning and you get ready and you feel nervous, excited, or whatever it is. You start second-guessing, maybe I should not wear this outfit today? What is the point of this right now? Then the person across from you complements the outfit you thought was not worthy. The “thing” you did not want to do – was most likely the coolest thing you did all day. Look at your reflection and see how strong you have been the last couple of days. The point does not to overthink it, just do it!!! Find peace in simplicity as you go about your day.
Express all that comes with true intentions. Text your people when you feel the need to, as much as you want to because one day you may not be able to. As you express all forms of appreciation to the ones you love. Express the same love for YOU. it’s already been hard enough, give yourself the hype you give everyone else.
To all the ones reading: THANK YOU! Thank you for existing, for waking up every day even when you do not want to do so. Thank you for being you. Most of all thank you for all you bring to the table because believe it or not you play a huge role in someone else’s day!!! My most sincere love and gratitude. Stay saucy my humans!! ❤️
Congrats human!!! You’ve made it through this day. Sometimes you become overwhelmed when things pile up, you do not have time for everything!! 24. Is the answer. 24 hours that is it, good or bad it is only 24 hours and it is over. Every day you have a fresh start. It takes bravery to have the courage to push through all of the adversity. Hey, you never thought you would make it past that “bad day” but you did. You are stronger than you think. Never discredit your effort you have walked it all the way here keep pushing!
You are always halfway there. Halfway to where you want to be. Progress is progress no matter how small. Just watch your step, you may stumble a little, but that does not mean stop. Pause. Rest. Then keep coasting because on the other side the gratitude and satisfaction you’ve worked for is waiting.
GIVE CREDIT TO YOURSELF. YOU HAVE WALKED THE WALK. 👏🏽
As always, be authentic to yourself. Everything that is yours will find you!!! Only stop when you see the view you deserve.
Today, I write in specific to my cousin Will, the sweetest soul I knew. I’ve tried the last 24 hours, to think, to accept, to feel fine. Here I am doing the only thing I know how to do which is writing. To anyone grieving, I’m deeply sorry for your loss may you find peace and understanding.
William, you always knew how to provide comfort. You always put everyone before you, most of all you always showed up. You supported each & everything I or anyone else needed. I know that is why God wanted you on his team. You were always the MVP on and off the court. You were always my biggest hype buddy and I will miss you asking me about college more than you know. May you rest easy, we will hold the fort down until we meet again. Maybe this time, you can finally teach me how to play basketball… In our heart forever and always you will be! Black Mamba has hung his jersey, but I’m sure Kobe has a spot for the biggest lakers fan there ever was.
Grief is a constant battle, but the only thing I know for sure is that there is no more suffering for that individual, everything has a time under the sun. One day we will all reunite with the ones we miss!! Stay strong, I’m rooting for all of those going through pain.
What is growth for you? When you plant something you are always so anxious to see what it will look like. You wait two or three weeks… meanwhile you water it, check it has enough sun, enough space to flourish right? Well, guess what?! The same rules apply to YOU!! You are a constant plant in all areas that you are in you seek growth and understanding.
In all moments you are growing and just like you value and cherish your plants or whatever it is you care for. You need to give yourself to go through it all, the storms bring (water) which may confuse, the sun brings happiness (nurturing) and time brings (peace) understanding. We may not understand why it all happens, but you need water, sunlight, and time to grow into the prettiest & strongest human you are meant to be. Give yourself nurturing!!! Growth is different for everyone, it’s not a marathon. In your time you will bloom. Focus on growing and all that you desire will follow once you are the best version of yourself!! Can’t have flowers without rain and remember it brings the most beautiful rainbows in the end. Create, be happy, and learn to nurture yourself!!! Rooting for you always.
What are you doing in this given moment? What is it?
Are you celebrating, struggling, stressed, happy, sad, I do not know all the above perhaps. Oh how the days take place and create waves. I find myself in a moment of self-doubt. I never know if I am doing things right, if I’m strong enough or what in the world is it that causes this anxiety? Find myself asking lots of questions and not enough answers. I am sure all of us can relate in some way. Why is it we always self-sabotage… genuinely curious, why be afraid of what has not happened? “Just fake it, till you make it” is all I say these days. Because the perfectionist in me cringes every time I do something and it was not enough. Who said that? Nobody. We do. We discredit ourselves before anyone can.
News flash: Nothing is ever perfect!! Keep learning and growing until you can flourish into the person you are meant to be. You will never know your capabilities until you get there! You always figure it out. Just keep moving along, you have survived all days before this one. Drink your water. Listen to music. Love yourself. Flourish and just be. Everything works out just reach for the sky!!
We are always so tired that it is so casual to say “I will do it tomorrow” yeah, I know, but that may not always be the case. What is so scary about jumping? Take the task today. Go walking, jumping, flying! FEAR IS INEVITABLE. Do not let it win, what is the worst thing that can happen…. The answer no is just a no someone will say yes, they see your passion and help you achieve your goals. Most people live in the “if” mindset, me being one of them, what if I fall? What if I fail? What if I mess up? Okay, so you get up keep going, dust off, and try again. The greatest mistake you can make is just sit and waste time watching everything happen around you and not live!
We have all heard the “life is too short” line and it is so true. The next time you second guess yourself, do not!! Do it anyway! Jump in water… it’s just water, your shoes will dry. Sing in the street… people are already looking at you anyway who cares. Take the class… you will learn something new! Be free! Fear (less) and do more because chances are tomorrow may never come!!!
The world is a mess, we all know that. Between covid, family issues, death, you name it, it is just utter chaos! It always seems like we are at war trying to find peace. Sitting and observing things daily I have come to notice a few things. People & all the things that make up the world are inconsistent. Nothing is permanent, we just create the expectations that it will be because we want comfort and hate change.
It is not until we become disappointed that we realize the one consistent thing you have is YOU. Sure we all share the good and the bad with those we value most, but until you find them all you have is the option to paint your pictures. To be there for yourself. Until then take charge. Breathe and know some other human is fighting too. You have made it past the worst day that you thought you could not. So until peace comes just hang tight!
Doing new things is intimidating…we are all scared to fail. The way we will be perceived by others, but truthfully it all depends on you! Take the leap you never know what will happen. You are in control of who you what to be. Don’t live in fear that will only deprived you of your greatest potential. Be courageous and confident enough you can do all things. Set small goals, and tackle them slowly. Nothing worth having comes easy.
Do not sell yourself short so fast, you are more than capable. Believe in yourself the way others do! It is easier said than done, but just go for it. The growth you will discover is irreplaceable. They all say “you’re crazy” and then it turns into “no way, I’m so proud” take the time and space to prepare yourself and build the courage to seek new challenges. I am rooting for you always when you feel like no one is. You can only go as far as you let your thoughts take you. Follow your dreams and conquer every single one of them. It may take weeks, months, or even years, but it will happen!
This is the process no one talks about… through every situation, we have a healing process. Whether it is grief, heartbreak, or disappointment. It is a journey that teaches us how to close our wounds. Although I must say it is never the same, some take more time than others. We are human, we are created to trust and have expectations and believe everything will always be fine. With all good comes the bad and you must be prepared to encounter the challenges in your life.
Healing looks different for each individual. Do not rush yourself, heal on your terms, not on the expectations of others. You do not need to rebuild anything that drains you mentally and physically, people often think we just “get over it” but that is never true. Feel what you need. Take time. Learn and Process. Never allow the same version of yourself to hurt you, they do not deserve it and you owe it to yourself to move forward not to go back!
Although we never know when all pain does end! Everything is temporary, feel the moment and prosper. I’m rooting for you. Stand strong. Be brave. Take courage and do NOT give up, remember the sun shines every day. There is a finish line, I promise!!!